Problems

Hey Guys! Sorry for not having a blog for quite awhile i have a good reason..

"The grade 10 play was going on so i did not have time to do anything else"  

haha!

Ok To start of this blog i would start the topic with "Problems"

It's not about friendship,Relationship,or Anything else

But its A Problem that will take a while...

Everyday, And Every Night i hide this problem from my friends

and i have to come clean sooner or later right?

Ok, I have this Symptoms called "Adhd" Or as some people 

call it Attention Deficit hyperactivity Disorder

Of course its not something i could be proud of

or anything... 

Because when i was small i never took things seriously even till

now.

and of course i told a few of my friends and they burst out laughing

of course wouldn't it be funny to see a disabled boy trying to fit in the world

and make things right? (was being sarcastic btw)

if you need to know in detail.. I have the Inattentive ADHD

There are three different types of ADHD, including:

• combined ADHD (the most common type), which involves all of the symptoms
• inattentive ADHD (previously known as ADD), which is marked by impaired attention and concentration
• hyperactive-impulsive ADHD, which is marked by hyperactivity without inattentiveness

See even right now when i am writing this blog i have trouble concentrating... Blehh

people say i am just running my mouth, but once you step foot in my world let see if you can survive my life.

Here are the list of Adhd problems and what effects it does in my life

• difficulty paying attention to details and tendency to make careless mistakes in school or other activities; producing work that is often messy and careless
• easily distracted by irrelevant stimuli and frequently interrupting ongoing tasks to attend to trivial noises or events that are usually ignored by others
• inability to sustain attention on tasks or activities
• difficulty finishing schoolwork or paperwork or performing tasks that require concentration
• frequent shifts from one uncompleted activity to another
• procrastination
• disorganized work habits
• forgetfulness in daily activities (for example, missing appointments, forgetting to bring lunch)
• failure to complete tasks such as homework or chores
• frequent shifts in conversation, not listening to others, not keeping one's mind on conversations, and not following details or rules of activities in social situations

Hyperactivity symptoms may be apparent in very young preschoolers and are nearly always present before the age of seven. Symptoms include:

• fidgeting, squirming when seated
• getting up frequently to walk or run around
• running or climbing excessively when it's inappropriate (in teens this may appear as restlessness)
• having difficulty playing quietly or engaging in quiet leisure activities
• being always on the go
• often talking excessively

Though my friends are there to help me but do they believe me?

Some of my friends says "Yeah right.." "Grow up eric" "Be a man!"

Mostly Laughs..

Here are the 2 huge problems in my adhd symptoms

~lack of Self esteem

How is self-esteem affected by ADHD?

Your child's self-esteem is shaped by:

• how she thinks
• what she expects of herself
• how other people (family, friends, teachers) think and feel about her.

Many children with ADHD have problems in school and with teachers and sometimes have difficulties at home. They find it difficult to make and keep friends.

People often don't understand their behaviour and judge them because of it. They disrupt situations, often gaining punishments, so they may find it easier not to bother trying to fit in or do work at school.

All this means children with ADHD often feel badly about themselves. They might think they're stupid, naughty, bad or a failure. Not surprisingly, their self-esteem takes a battering and they find it hard to think anything positive or good about themselves.

Next of course is Depression

One out of every four adults with ADD/ADHD also suffers from symptoms of depression.  When there are co-existing conditions, it can be harder to diagnose and treat ADHD.  The symptoms may overlap and one of the conditions may not be accurately diagnosed.  Or medication may not be as effective. 

Previously, depression in patients with ADHD was thought to be situational and it was assumed that the depression was a result of constant failure or the inability to compensate for symptoms of ADHD in daily life.  Because of this, depression was often ignored and ADHD was treated, assuming that the depression would disappear when the ADHD was controlled and treated.  Research has now shown that ADHD and depression are separate diagnoses and both should be treated.

Getting and giving criticism

Dealing with criticism

The best way for your child to deal with criticism is to:

• listen to what's being said. Don't interrupt to contradict or make excuses.
• agree with it, where possible.
• ask questions if unsure about anything.
• admit mistakes and apologise.
• calmly disagree if it's unfair, eg by politely saying, 'I don't agree with you'.

There are times when criticism is necessary, but children with low self-esteem aren't good at accepting criticism - or giving it nicely.

How you give criticism is important. Criticism is the other part of making your child feel loved: sarcastic, negative comments can undo all your hard work to be encouraging. So is there such a thing as good criticism?

If you want to teach your child how to accept criticism, you need to give it in a constructive way.

This means being calm, not angry, and focusing on the behaviour you want to change instead of criticising the person. It also helps if you can find positive things to say to balance the criticism. Using 'I' tends to be less aggressive than 'you'.

So if your child is struggling with a piece of school work, don't say 'you're stupid', but 'I loved the way you read the first page. It's only a couple of words you're stumbling on. That word is…'

All these things apply when your child gives criticism. For example, 'I like playing with you, but it's too cold to play outside today.'

You know what if my friends could be more supportive and nice i would have pass this sickness without any problems in life...If my friends can stop being sarcastic and help me get thru it would be a major turning point in life... its because of the people around me that make me feel insecure.. Like "hey dude you dress like..." or " Dude you suck!" or like "man... you are ugly" 

They don't know the problems i been thru and yet they make fun of me... they don't give a fuck about me... all they care is if i give them good remarks.. , Everyday i would go up to a friend and be so nice about it.. and i agree in possible points that make them happy .. but what they do in return? They just fuck me up and give me hard criticism ....

I want to be around positive people... i want to heal.. i want to be strong... i want to be accepted... i want to be a risk -taker but all that is blocking my way from moving on ward is the criticism gave by my friends... 

Cheers and love

Eric